Mother’s Day 2018

Why Did Mom Say That?

Psalm 139: 13; Proverbs 6: 20

Introduction: Joyce Meyer – Facebook Clip https://www.facebook.com/joycemeyerministries/videos/10155479809992384/

As I was thinking about this year’s Mother’s Day message, I kept coming back to some of the things my mom said as I was growing. Things like:

 

  • Just wait till your father gets home (usually directed more at my brother)
  • Eat all your food…think about all the starving children in the world!
  • Good Night, Sleep Tight, Don’t let the Bed Bug Bites, Say your Prayers and Good Night

 

And then that got me thinking that your moms would have certainly had things they said during your growing up years as well:

 

So here are a few from your fellow church members:

 

  • Melody Anderson

My mom’s big one was, “If there is a will, there is a way”

 

  • From Ray and Sandra Holaday…Ray’s mom would say to Ray and his twin….”Eat and get big like your Uncle Mark” (Mark was her 6’6” brother).   A few thing my Mom would say “Sit up straight.” “Be nice and stand up straight” (My friends were shorter so I slouched) “Put both feet on the floor when you eat you are not feeding your knee.”Learn to use your knife and fork”  “Pretty is as pretty does” I think one of the best was “Remember whose you are” Whose not who.  In otherwords you are God’s child act like it. That was from a friend to her children when they would exit the car.
  • Kill them with kindness
    When kids at school were mean to us Mom would tell us to kill them with kindness. This did work pretty well for me… Linda Bowles
  • Brenda Foucault

Bill’s mother frequently would say “And that is why…” My mother’s                                 frequent response was “Ask your Dad” That was when we wanted to do                            something, he in turn would tell us to ask her.  By the time someone                               agreed we could do it, we felt guilty for asking and wasn’t sure we still                              wanted too.

  • Linda Malone

“You don’t lie and you don’t steal.” Wish the world followed this!

  • Kay Stephens

At meal time my mom would always say “Everything is better when it is                         shared”.

 

“Take an aspirin. You’ll be fine. Now go to school!”

  • A Sweet Memory of my Mom – Mimi Chamberlain

A devout woman of God was my mother. Her entire life was spent in                                service to her Lord. Here time and talents were given wholeheartedly,                             preaching, teaching and encouraging people to surrender their lives to                             the Savior she loved so very much.

 

                        So I’m sure it isn’t unusual that I would remember these words she would                                    say so often to me:

 

                        “Honey, I hope you never miss an opportunity to testify for the                                    Lord.”

 

                        And with God’s help, I never will!

 

Now most of the time, moms are right on in the advice they give. However, Marti’s mom missed on at least one of her “momisms

At the beginning of sophomore year at Anderson College, Marti decided to get her hair cut short (she had had long hair since her junior high years)…

What was her mom’s reaction when she cut her hair? Marti, men like long hair!

But I have to tell you her mom was wrong…picture of Marti on Screen…this was her hair length when I asked her out the first time! And yes, I did marry up!

So why do…or why did, our mom say all the things they say/said?

I think they began thinking about the things they would say to us before we were ever born.

Psalm 139: 13 (on screen) reminds us of this truth: You made all the delicate, inner parts of my body and knit me together in my mother’s womb.

 

Your journey, according to the Word of God, began with your mother at conception. God already had in mind your personality and physical features. While you were being formed, your mom carried you in her womb. She wondered what sex you would be…She wondered what you would look like…what your personality would be like…what your future would hold.

 

Before you were born, your mom was already formulating the things she would say to you. Words of encouragement and love…words of discipline and nurturing…And then there were the things their mother said to them that they swore to themselves that they would never say to their own child! But they just can’t/couldn’t help themselves!

 

I believe much of what moms formulate in their hearts and minds as they think about raising their child(ren) comes about during the stages of pregnancy. As I have absolutely know idea what it is like to be pregnant, I looked for some insight from a mother. This was this mother assessment of the stages of pregnancy…

  1. Yay, I’m pregnant! “Yee haw, I’m having a baby!” you may think after seeing that blessed double line on your pregnancy test. In that moment you’re still basically feeling like yourself (Morning sickness hasn’t kicked in yet), so it’s likely your head is quickly filled with visions of your baby and the type of pregnant woman you’re going to be.
  2. Sweet Georgia asphalt, I’m pregnant! Quickly following the excitement of a positive pregnancy test is often the anxiety of a pregnancy test. “A baby?!” you may think as you envision yourself rocking and burping a small crying human at 4 a.m. Your heart is suddenly pounding and your mouth feels dry. Um, yay?
  3. No joke, I literally might be dying (*googles “has anyone ever died from morning sickness?”*). Your plans of being a super healthy, all-natural earth mama may be dashed in the first trimester if and when morning sickness hits. Didn’t think it was possible to sustain on Saltines, ginger ale and peppermints for 12 weeks? Surprise! Welcome to pregnancy.
  4. The last thing I want is alone time with my husband…my greatest desire…Going back to sleep three minutes after opening my eyes in the morning. The exhaustion, ohhhhh, the exhaustion. How are you supposed to live this way? Go to work? Hold a conversation? How have pregnant women of the past gone on walking around and doing normal things when they’re this tired? How?!
  5. This (sniff) Kia (sniff) commercial is so beautiful (sob). Making the exhaustion and morning sickness all the more fun is the fact that mood swings have made you super emotional at the same time. There comes a point in pregnancy when you can barely turn on the TV because everything — literally everything — makes you want to cry your little pregnant eyes out. Thanks a bunch, hormones.
  6. Have I always wanted to punch everyone this much? Who knew you could feel so sentimental and ragey all at once? Why do the sight of your husband’s dirty clothes on the floor and the snippy woman in the grocery store aisle make you seethe this way?
  7. What is this? Is my energy actually returning? It’s a miracle! Now we’re talking. Most women report feeling less tired and more like “themselves” at some point in the second trimester. See ya, Saltines and afternoon naps on the couch. Pass the extra salty French fries and my day planner!
  8. I finally get what people mean when they say “glowing”! My hair! My skin! I’m a freaking baby-creating goddess! While you may have been feeling more “feeble chic” during the first trimester, the second trimester is when you may really come alive. Long, silky hair; glowing, Instagram-filtered-looking skin; All that along with an adorable baby bump. It’s happening. And it’s glorious.
  9. Annnnd now I’m uncomfortable again. Where did my inner pregnancy goddess go? Sometime in the third trimester (often in that last month or two), things can get real uncomfy. Your tummy has gotten pretty big, for one thing. Also? Your organs feel squished, you’re frequently short of breath doing simple things like walking up the stairs, and you have to go to the bathroom roughly 2,654 a day. Baby, you coming out soon?
  10. If alphabetizing my spice rack and washing all the cushion covers to my couch fall under the category of “nesting,” then yeah, I’m nesting. Organizing (and reorganizing and re-reorganizing) is insanely satisfying while you’re waiting for your baby’s arrival. As is cleaning everything in sight. Hurrah for nesting!
  11. Welp, this is it! No looking back now. Sometime towards the end of your pregnancy, you just surrender. Surrender to the idea that the discomfort you’re feeling isn’t permanent, and surrender to the idea that your life is about to be forever changed (for the better). And once you do, it’s a beautiful thing. Hey, why didn’t you do this all along?

Moms, can you identify with those stages?

While you were being formed in your mother’s womb, your mom was formulating not only what she would say to you…but what she would also teach you. What she wanted you to know to have a safe, productive life!

And God’s Word makes it clear that we should listen to our mother’s instructions:

My son, obey your father’s commands,
and don’t neglect your mother’s instruction.
  (Proverbs 6: 20)

This proverb reminds us that our mother’s instruction is to be heeded…not neglected. Now moms aren’t perfect and even when they mean well the things they say to us may come across judgmental or uncaring. But I’ve never known a mom (in most cases) that didn’t want the best for their child…That didn’t want their child to grow up to be the best version of themselves.

 

I came across this interesting reading called:

 

THINGS ONLY A MOM CAN TEACH

My Mother taught me about ANTICIPATION:
“Just wait until your father gets home.”

My Mother taught me about RECEIVING:.
“You are going to get it when we get home!”

My Mother taught me to MEET A CHALLENGE:
“What were you thinking? Answer me when I talk to you…Don’t talk back to me!”

My Mother taught me LOGIC:
“Because I said so, that’s why.”
&
“If you fall out of that swing and break your neck, you’re not going to the store with me.”

My Mother taught me MEDICAL SCIENCE:
“If you don’t stop crossing your eyes, they are going to freeze that way.”

My Mother taught me to THINK AHEAD:
“If you don’t pass your spelling test, you’ll never get a good job.”

My Mother taught me ESP:
“Put your sweater on; don’t you think I know when you’re cold?”

My Mother taught me HUMOR:
“When that lawn mower cuts off your toes, don’t come running to me.”

My Mother taught me how to BECOME AN ADULT:
“If you don’t eat your vegetables, you’ll never grow up.”

My Mother taught me about SEX:
“How do you think you got here?”

My Mother taught me about GENETICS:
“You’re just like your father.”

My Mother taught me about my ROOTS:
“Do you think you were born in a barn?”

My Mother taught me about WISDOM OF AGE:
“When you get to be my age, you will understand.”

My Mother taught me about JUSTICE:
“One day you’ll have kids, and I hope they turn out just like you. Then you’ll see what it’s like.”

My mother taught me RELIGION:
“You better pray that will come out of the carpet.”

My mother taught me about TIME TRAVEL:
“If you don’t straighten up, I’m going to knock you into the middle of next week!”

My mother taught me FORESIGHT:
“Make sure you wear clean underwear, in case you’re in an accident.”

My mother taught me IRONY:
“Keep crying and I’ll *give* you something to cry about.”

My mother taught me about the science of OSMOSIS:
“Shut your mouth and eat your supper!”

My mother taught me about CONTORTIONISM:
“Will you *look* at the dirt on the back of your neck!”

My mother taught me about STAMINA:
“You’ll sit there until all that spinach is finished.”

My mother taught me about WEATHER:
“It looks as if a tornado swept through your room.”

My mother taught me how to solve PHYSICS PROBLEMS:
“If I yelled because I saw a meteor coming toward you, would you listen then?”

My mother taught me about HYPOCRISY:
“If I’ve told you once, I’ve told you a million times: Don’t Exaggerate!!!”

My mother taught me THE CIRCLE OF LIFE:
“I brought you into this world, and I can take you out.”

My mother taught me about BEHAVIOR MODIFICATION:
“Stop acting like your father!”
My mother taught me about ENVY:
“There are millions of less fortunate children in this world who don’t have wonderful parents like you do!”

 

While many of these things make us laugh, our moms do teach us many things with the express desire to help us grow into responsible adults. And for moms in the church, there is a great responsibility to be image bearers of Christ so that your children can grow in the knowledge and faith of God. Maybe the best lessons any mom can give their children are found in Galatians 5: 22-23:

 

But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, 23 gentleness and self-control. Against such things there is no law.

 

I want to close today by encouraging you, as mothers, to just be yourselves. Show your kids how much you love the Lord by living out the fruit of the Spirit in your own life. Show your kids how much God loves them by how you love them. Show them the forgiveness of God, by living in the forgiveness you have received from God.

 

Thank you moms for all you do…we love you!